Male frustrations with dating

Focus' online community for young adults, Boundless, seeks to help singles navigate these issues.

Through Boundless, Focus encourages intentional living and offers resources that motivate young adults to know their worth in Christ as individuals and to be open to the opportunities God may have for them.

They point to their neighbor/sister/uncle/friend that met his/her spouse online and is enjoying a healthy, happy marriage. We can then take these big ideas and apply them to our everyday lives and the choices we make.

But that process requires wisdom, discernment and guidance.

Thankfully, I've been 'lucky in love' ~or perhaps I was just very careful and discerning.

Admittedly, I had a challenging time starting to write this article, because the bulk of people who contacted me about their BPD relationships had been men, but I kept getting letters from females who said, "what about us~ why aren't you writing about encounters with narcissistic or borderline disordered males, and they taught me about what to avoid.

When I began recalling and including those experiences in this piece, it flowed.

It was (book and film) unlike anything else – a stylised, brutal critique of how the modern, capitalist-driven world had erased men’s sense of masculinity, leaving them feeling directionless and impotent.

Palahniuk's protagonists set out to rediscover what it means to be a man through good old-fashioned violence and nihilism.