However, that shouldn’t stop you from pursuing a relation with a widow or widower. Unless you are recently single, your dating skills should include the ability to be still and let this wonderful human being move toward you." Ask questions early on Susan Shapiro Barash, author of and a professor at Marymount Manhattan College says "It’s best to be forthright…".Ask questions about the wife/husband, how long did the marriage last, how long has he/she been a widow/widower.For one, the person may still have strong feelings tied up in the previous relationship and it’s untimely end. In fact, they most likely have not dated for a considerable length of time that they may have forgotten how to approach it again.This could lead you to question that previous relationship. Claudia Jean, creator of a seminar series on a mid-life dating, says "there may also be a lingering sense of ‘cheating’ that must be worked through.
It was an innocent request; with innocent expectations. And even if he has moments where the past intersects with the present, chances are quite good that he will never let you know it. He’ll have told you so in a thousand different ways consistently and happily.And he will have taken steps – in the words of Captain Picard – to “make it so”.Put yourself in your date’s shoes Think of how you want to be treated and how you would feel if you were in that position.Claudia Jean says think about "How do you want to be loved? Do you want loneliness to follow your spouse to his or her grave, or do you want to have the love you had for each other move forward?