Mother Theresa said: “Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty…Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty than the person who has nothing to eat” So why are so many people lonely?A lot of people today are trying to become more popular. THE PRESSURE TO PERFORM Shauna Niequist wrote an article called “Stop Instagramming your Perfect Life”. We’ve got to always look good, always come across happy, & always appear popular (even if we’re not). Rather spend time discussing basketball or fashion. Rather work on a project together which will build the friendship.In it she said: “My life looks better on the Internet than it does in real life”. THE FREEDOM TO BE YOURSELF Friends don’t expect us to always look good. Lewis explains the difference between dating relationships and friendships… Lewis went onto say: “People who simply ‘want friends’ can never make any.The path to popularity requires that we constantly perform. They like hanging out with us even when we’re not happy. “Lovers are always talking to one another about their love; Friends hardly ever about their Friendship. The very condition of having Friends is that we should want something else besides Friends…They don’t care if we’re smart, talented, athletic, or musical. Lovers are normally face to face, absorbed in each other; Friends, side by side, absorbed in some common interest” The key then is not to set out to focus on the friendship, but to focus on what unites you as friends. Friendship must be about something, even if it were only an enthusiasm for dominoes or white mice.If, during the courtship, one or both parties realize that marriage is not God’s will and they end the relationship, the courtship has not failed.
Under the protection, guidance, and blessing of parents or mentors, the couple concentrates on developing a deep friendship that could lead to marriage, as they discern their readiness for marriage and God’s timing for their marriage.What is the difference between courtship and dating?Is the only difference that dating is casual and courtship is exclusive with movement towards engagement?That's usually the problem with rushed relationships.People like to think that just because they know someone and love someone that their relationship can last the way a true partnership will. They are for couples who have waded their way through all the bullsh*t and landed on something stronger than just a relationship.