We'd think about him non-stop, we'd do foolish things like call him up and demand to know why he won't take us back and we've cried hours over him.
It's part of the romantic journey to experience those things but what happens when your ex boyfriend starts sending out a multitude of mixed signals in your direction?
Phazar French, I don't believe there's a standard response to your generic question.
Since you're talking about an ex, I would probably say the best approach would be not to remain in contact with your ex until your ex misses you.
Some research suggests that BPD is a disorder often identified and diagnosed mainly in women.
Rarely is it ever diagnosed or even considered a diagnosis for a man. Because the pre-established gender norms (that are limited) have made identifying symptoms of BPD difficult in men.
You don't want to place your heart and your happiness in his hands.
If my response is confusing to you, I suggest that you read some of this group's posts on the subject of No Contact. It was going no where until i figured the only control i had was to ask myself what I truly wanted.If you go to No Contact and your ex misses you, your ex will reach out to you.If you go to No Contact, and your ex stops contacting you, then it's possible the situation won't be resolved so easily and you might have to move on. You don't deserve to be tormented by hot and cold signals from your ex.If your ex boyfriend is hot and cold, you've really got to temper that before you start putting your emotional health at risk.A man like this has all the control over the break up and the subsequent reunion.